Are You Your Own Worst Critic?

Today I chatted with one of the behavioral health interns about ways to better connect with patients and get them to open up. As a pharmacy student, I talk to patients about a lot of difficult topics. I know and understand the science behind it, but being able to communicate that information in a way patients can understand is difficult.

What really struck me, something that I haven't really thought about, is me being my own worst critic. I know when people hear this, they think of someone being mean to themselves, but that's not always the case. I don't think "You are dumb" or "You aren't good enough", but I do reflect a lot on the past and think about what I can do better. I compare myself to other people and I assess myself and think, " I wish I was more knowledgeable about this" or "I wish I was skinnier and more motivated to work out".

All of these things, even though they aren't direct insults, do affect my life. Now that I think about it, the things I think I'm not as good at are the things I feel insecure about. Instead of thinking I need to lose weight, I need to think "Dang, girl you look good for not working out!!" Haha! In my every day life, if I know I'm not knowledgeable or good at something, I avoid it.

Learning from reflection is extremely important, as long as you can take away something and move on. I am really bad about giving myself credit. I am graduating in May with my PharmD degree. I've worked really hard to get here yet I've never taken the time to congratulate myself. I only worry about getting a job, money, my future, etc.

So my goal for myself, and a goal you should have too, is to reflect on each day and congratulate myself on something good, not matter how big or small, I accomplished that day. There are so many people out there who will try to bring you down; don't be one of them!